[📚] Reading - Models p133: Stop Living as the ‘Subordinate’: Honest Life / Action / Expression

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Book cover for ‘Models.’ ‘Models’ p133. The author emphasizes ‘getting away from desperation,’ and says this becomes possible when one reveals ‘vulnerability.’ He then connects that vulnerability to nothing other than ‘honesty.’

• Original: http://blog.naver.com/hyeogikarp/223882357846
• Naver publication time: 2025/05/30 07:39 KST
• Original category: Reading

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Book cover for ‘Models’

‘Models’ p133

The author emphasizes “getting away from desperation,” and says this becomes possible when one reveals “vulnerability.” He then connects that vulnerability to nothing other than “honesty.”

The author presents three concrete paths toward this “honesty,” and these form the core structure of the book:

1. An honest life (lifestyle): building for oneself an attractive, high-level life that aligns with one’s values.

2. Honest action (courage): comfortably revealing one’s intentions without hiding them, and overcoming fear and anxiety around social encounters, intimacy, and further, sexual attraction.

3. Honest expression (conversation): becoming familiar with emotional expression and learning the skill of conversing well so that one can freely express one’s attractiveness.

The author’s perspective is clear and consistent.

In fact, these principles seem applicable to anyone regardless of gender. Even so, why did the author make male readers his main target?

Perhaps, from the author’s perspective, borrowing an intuitive idiomatic expression that I do not particularly prefer, men more often place themselves in the “subordinate” position in the “dating market”; in other words, they reveal more “desperation.”

In the end, this book is a guide to not falling into the “subordinate” position in life.

That does not mean becoming arrogantly “superior.” On the contrary, the author constantly warns the reader to be careful of exactly that point.

When I reflect the book’s message onto my own life, the answer becomes clear.

• If I cannot live an “honest lifestyle” filled with the life I truly want and my own values? I become the “subordinate.”

• If I hide my intentions, accommodate the other person, and endure discomfort, meaning I lack “honest courage”? I become the “subordinate.”

• If I cannot have “honest conversation” that freely expresses my feelings and thoughts? Again, I have no choice but to become the “subordinate.”

Suddenly, I wondered why a book had to explain such a simple truth in this much detail.

But as the saying goes, “you see as much as you know.” For someone like me, who is used to looking over the whole “forest,” perhaps a guide that shows the detailed shapes and features of each “tree” is sometimes desperately necessary.

I may be good at grasping broad tendencies and context, but I am someone who easily misses concrete methods of practice.

In other words, to put it in the currently popular MBTI style, I am someone whose N (intuition) always comes out above 90%.

Therefore, this book is extremely useful for someone like me.

Someone may laugh and ask, “Are you learning dating/life from books?” But I will gladly learn even from books. At the peak of the lifestyle I dream of, the clearest picture is meeting the person who fits me best and building a happy family.