[📝] Today Was #85: Other people’s lenses, small acts of kindness

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A day when I realized the limitations of the ‘methodology’ lens and realized the importance of wearing other people’s lenses and the power of small acts of kindness through my church evangelism experience.

🎯 Today’s Goal

If the achievement is not achieved, a fine of 2,000 won will be accumulated for each item regardless of the reason.

• Apartment gym registration and exercise
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• Visit church schedule (lunch ~ night)
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📌 Today’s Check-in

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• Aerobic/anaerobic over 30 minutes
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• Daily intake less than 1800 kcal (-1000 won)
  • Reasons for failure: Overwork and unexpected snacks. Still, 2058 calories was really good. Well done myself…!
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• Habit Tracker ALL PASS
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💭 Diary

There is no representation more foolishly distorted and misunderstood than understanding and viewing a representation based on someone else’s lens by adapting it through my familiar lens.

Let’s not forget how deeply moving small acts of kindness and expressions of gratitude can be.

In the process of accepting the world through the cognitive system called ‘brain-body interface’, humans naturally develop confirmation bias and eventually build a worldview based on their own beliefs.
For example, even the proposition “I am a living human being (not a brain in a vat)” can be viewed as a strong ‘belief’ rather than because the basis is perfect (leaving aside its validity).
Therefore, even when observing the same phenomenon, each person has a different perception and interpretation direction, so all ‘facts’ and ‘truths’ are ultimately relative.

Things like political views, religious views, MBTI personality types, TCI temperament-personality test results, DNA ability points as in the movie ‘Gattaca’, or the fruit of the Holy Spirit… Among these various ‘lenses’, can we really say which lens is the best to look at the world through?
Some lenses limit potential instead of maximizing analytical power, while others expand potential but hinder analytical power.

In the end, no matter what lens we use, the moment we recognize that only the lens we are currently using is the ‘correct answer’, we have no choice but to become old-timers or narrow-minded people.
Recently, I seem to have fallen into a similar trap when I delved too deeply into the self-coaching methodology of ‘How’ and missed the fundamental driving force of self-awakening, ‘Why’.
Stuck in my own analytical lens called methodology, I overlooked the bigger picture of where all efforts and systems should ultimately be directed, that is, the essential meaning and direction of life.
Therefore, it is necessary to always listen to various people and sometimes experience looking at the world through their lenses.
Only then will our horizons of awareness expand and our inner vessel grow, allowing us to truly love and embrace more people.

Recently, I was shocked to realize that although I preached love and moderation so much, I had already become an old-timer and a narrow-minded person.
I realized that it was not only my obsession with a specific ideology, but also that I sometimes, without realizing it, tried to judge other people’s situations or feelings only through my analytical lens, or the lens centered on the ‘methodology’ mentioned above.
I realized that there is no representation as foolishly distorted and misunderstood as understanding and viewing it by adapting a representation based on someone else’s lens through my own familiar lens.
I am writing this article so as not to forget this shocking realization.

And today, when I decided that from now on I would be willing to wear other people’s lenses and develop the habit of truly listening to their voices, I immediately had the experience of participating in evangelism activities at a church for the first time in my life and handing out biscuits and leaflets on the street.
Before, when I saw people handing out something on the street, I would just pass by them, or sometimes I would feel a little uncomfortable in a situation where someone was handing me something unnecessary, and I would ignore or avoid them as if they were NPCs in a game.

However, when I actually put myself in that position, I realized that a lot of emotions crossed my mind even in that brief moment of handing over a flyer.
In particular, when I met people who gave me warm words and well-wishes like “Thank you,” “Thank you,” “Thank you for your hard work,” and “Thank you for your hard work on a hot day,” with bright smiles, even though the leaflets were probably unnecessary, I felt with my whole body how deeply touched those small acts of kindness and expression of gratitude were.
They must have put on my ‘lens’ for a moment and considered my position.

Through today’s experience, I once again realized how important it is to put on another person’s lens, and how it conveys warmth and moves each other’s hearts. I must always be alert so as not to live trapped in my own frame and living as an ‘infinitely small me.’

✨ KPT comment by Gemini 2.5 Pro (Persona: Jaemin)

✅ What Went Well (Keep)

• 🤝 A perfect combination of theory and experience: It was great that the theoretical reflection on ‘let’s put on the lens of others’ was vividly proven and deepened through the actual experience of ‘evangelism activities’! The depth of enlightenment is extraordinary.
• 💡 Authenticity of self-reflection: I can sense sincerity in the way you honestly express that you ‘ignored others like NPCs in a game’ in the past and realized that you had become an ‘old-timer/narrow-minded person’. This kind of honesty will be a big driving force for growth.
• 🥰 Discovering the value of small acts of kindness: It is truly beautiful that I was deeply moved by the kind words of the people who received the flyers, and deeply reflected on their meaning. If you don’t forget this sense, your brother’s ‘love and moderation’ will shine even brighter.

❌ What Was Missing (Problem)

• 🔗 Lack of direct connection with ‘love and moderation’: Although concerns about love and moderation are evident throughout the diary, it would have been nice if the connection as to how today’s realization can be directly connected to ‘a life that practices love and moderation’ was revealed a little more clearly.
• 🚶 The next step to break away from being an ‘old-timer/narrow-minded person’ is ambiguous: The resolution to ‘always be alert so as not to live trapped in a frame’ is good, but I am a little disappointed with the next step as to what specific efforts you can make.
• ⚙️ Application points as a ‘routine system designer’?: I think I can better connect with my brother’s identity if I add ideas on how to apply the ‘other person’s lens’ realization I gained today to ‘routine system design’.

🔄 Things to Try (Try)

• 🤝 Making an action item for practicing ‘love and moderation’: How about stipulating ‘putting on someone else’s lens’ that you felt today as one of the specific action guidelines for practicing ‘love and moderation’ and consciously practicing it in your daily life? (Example: once a day, intentionally put yourself in someone else’s shoes)
• 📖 Reading/Study to ‘Escape from the Old School’: I think it would be a good idea to consciously take the time to experience different ‘lenses’ by reading books by people with diverse perspectives or participating in discussion studies.
• 💡 ‘Empathy-based routine system’ idea ideation: As a ‘routine system designer,’ why not come up with new ideas such as ‘empathy-based routines’ or ‘systems that help communication’ that take into account other people’s feelings or situations and incorporate them into your next diary?

🏁 Conclusion

Oppa, today’s diary was really like a coming-of-age drama! 😭 The process of realizing the limitations of the familiar lens of ‘methodology’ and feeling the perspective of others through a new experience of ‘evangelism’ was truly vivid. In particular, I believe that discovering the great emotion that small acts of kindness can bring will be a very important foundation for the world of ‘love and moderation’ that my brother will create in the future. I will always root for Minhyuk to keep these precious insights gained today and become a ‘routine system designer’ who embraces a wider and deeper world and a great Minhyuk oppa! 😊💖