[📝] Today Was #171: Healing Chat, Killing Chat

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A day when I felt the difference between chatter that heals and chatter that drains.

• Original: http://blog.naver.com/hyeogikarp/223976644974
• Naver published at: 2025/08/20 09:35 KST
• Original category: Today’s proof

Original

🗓️ Date: 2025.8.19 Tue

Goals: 1/1

To-dos: 1/1

Habits: 4/4

Bets: 0

🔂-🎯 Goal Management Routine System

Lifetime Goals

• [Life RPG]

• 🎯 Reach more than 1 million monthly active users (MAU)

Goals for 2025

• [Life RPG] (liferpg.online)

• 🎯 Draft the Life RPG plan

• 🎯 Think through platform-related business and revenue models

• 🎯 Consider a B2B pivot

• 🎯 Market research: planning document, included apps, business and revenue models, … (+ AI)

• 🎯 Validate core hypotheses: collect materials on the effectiveness of gamification

• 🎯 Survey

• 🎯 Organize hypothesis-related materials in Notion Workspace

• 🎯 Temporary roadmap (not final): develop at least five built-in apps (modules) for the Life RPG platform

• ✅ 2025.08

  iD Note

• A gamification app that stores academy/PT lesson records and lets users gain experience and level up through attendance checks, homework, and more

• 🎯 2025.09

  Oharu (Today Was)

• A daily-life gamification app with an internal social feature for setting today’s goals and sharing completion status with friends

• 🎯 2025.10

  Pianolic

• A music gamification app for managing piano practice records and collecting practiced pieces and albums

• 🎯 2025.11

  Running Party

• A running gamification app that tracks running records and offers running matching with nearby users

• 🎯 2025.12

  Auto Vibe

• An education gamification app that gathers tips and lessons on automation tools and vibe coding and suggests learning guidelines for each user’s goal

• 🎯 2026.01

  Open the Life Store

• Officially open the Life Store, the platform’s core. Users can buy app access rights in the store, and developers can register new apps.

• 🎯 2026.02

  Apply for the Preliminary Startup Package

• Apply for the government-supported Preliminary Startup Package to validate business potential and secure support for platform growth and stable operation.

• [Health]

• 🎯 Lose 14.5 kg (89.5 kg -> 75 kg)

August Goals

• [Life RPG] (liferpg.online)

• 🎯 Practical Flutter App Development 125/125

• [Health]

• 🎯 Lose 4.5 kg (89.5 kg -> 85.0 kg)

Goals for the Third Week of August

• [Life RPG] (liferpg.online)

• 🎯 Practical Flutter App Development 125/125

• [Health]

• 🎯 Lose 2.5 kg (89.5 kg -> 87.0 kg)

Today’s Goals (⚠️ Required)

• ✅ Write the pre-incubation application form

🔂-📌 To-do Management Routine System

Today’s To-dos (⚠️ Required)

• ✅ Deep clean the house

🔂-♾️ Habit Management Routine System

Today’s Habits

• ✅ Strength: At least one strength I discovered in myself today

• I pursue conversations that are candid and honest, without falsehood.

• ✅ Gratitude: At least one thing I was grateful for today

• Grateful to everyone who listened to one another, exchanged reactions and feedback, and created healing time together.

• ✅ Exercise: at least 10 minutes of cardio/strength training

• ✅ Routine: Check today’s goals / to-dos / habits

🔂-💸 Bet Management Routine System

Ongoing Bets (⚠️ Required)

• Yo-yo recovery and 50,000 won recovery challenge (🏆 Reward: +50,000 won)

• By 9.1: 89.5 kg -> 85.0 kg

• 8.18: 89.5Kg

• 8.19: 88.6Kg

🤔 Brief Reflection

There is healing chatter that recharges my energy even when we just talk comfortably, and there is killing chatter where conversation keeps getting stuck and energy is drained away.

The chatter I experienced at today’s social gathering was closer to healing chatter.

Why was that?

I think the answer lies in listening.

They listened to the story of me, someone they had just met, and I listened to the stories of them, people I had just met.

Because the basic conversational posture of listening was present on both sides, a back-and-forth of appropriate questions and answers continued in its own way, and thanks to that the mood stayed comfortable.

The one slightly disappointing thing is that while I may have listened fairly well, I definitely do not think I asked questions well.

Is it because I have lived without much interest in other people until now? Even when I was curious about the other person, I could not easily think of what to ask first or how to ask it. (There is a limit to covering it by saying I am an I-type.)

Going forward, I need to practice asking the other person questions more actively, based on listening. Then maybe I will have more frequent experiences of enjoyable back-and-forth healing chatter.