[🤝] The Courage to Show My Jagged Edges

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A day when I looked back on how I used to hide my emotions because I cared about others’ eyes, and deeply realized that honestly showing even my jagged edges is the beginning of real relationships and of being human.

• Original: http://blog.naver.com/hyeogikarp/223878942582
• Naver published at: 2025/05/27 01:17 KST
• Original category: Relationships

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🗓️ Date: 2025.5.26 Mon

✨ Summary by Gemini 2.5 Pro

A day when I looked back on how I used to hide my emotions because I cared about others’ eyes, and deeply realized that honestly showing even my jagged edges is the beginning of real relationships and of being human.

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People are drawn to each other’s jagged edges.

ㅡ Psychologist Robert Glover

A person whose grain differs from mine will grow distant no matter what effort I make,

and a person whose grain fits mine will naturally get connected even if I do not try hard.

The main reason I have been afraid to reveal my jagged edges until now was that the other person might discover something they dislike in me and their heart might cool. I had lived under the mistaken belief that avoiding actions the other person might dislike and treating them in an inoffensive way was courtesy and consideration. But now I want to completely reverse that perspective.

With a person who feels uncomfortable with my jagged edges, no matter how hard I try to maintain a good relationship, the relationship is bound to break eventually. Every person has their own “grain,” the kind they prefer and feel comfortable with. In the end, a person whose grain differs from mine will grow distant no matter what effort I make, and a person whose grain fits mine will naturally get connected even if I do not try hard.

After realizing this simple fact, the question of what true “humanness” is also came to me in sequence. When I am happy, sad, or angry, instead of watching the other person’s mood, I should reveal my honest emotion and sometimes actively know how to seek empathy. That is the natural form of a living person.

Now I understand why I have sometimes heard from other people that I seem “robotic.” In reality I have more tears than I thought, a softer heart than I thought, and maybe I was even someone who wanted to act cute. It is a little sad to realize this so late, well past thirty.

But it is okay. From now on, I can express myself honestly. Sometimes that expression can be a little too much, and sometimes it can be a little lacking. Even if it creates an awkward atmosphere, the so-called sudden mood crash, that too is experience. Let me not be bound by the past and move toward the present and future, while always actively accepting feedback from around me with an open heart.

This whole process will ultimately be practice that grows me, and precious experience points.

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