[💭] Relationships Are Mirrors That Reflect Each Other.

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Suddenly, a fundamental question about relationships came to mind. Why do I like the people beside me?

• Original: http://blog.naver.com/hyeogikarp/223893656910
• Naver published at: 2025/06/09 19:15 KST
• Original category: Reflections

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Suddenly, a fundamental question about relationships came to mind.

Why do I like the people beside me?

And conversely, what do they see in me that makes them stay beside me?

I started with myself first.

What is it about them that I like?

I like that they are warm, that their hearts are open, that their way of speaking is gentle, that their nature is kind, that they are understanding, that being together is enjoyable, and sometimes that they are cute.

As I listed them one by one, I suddenly got chills.

Because the good points I discover in them might be the very image of myself that I want to show them, the reasons I hope they will like me, and the resemblance was almost startling.

(Even including “cuteness,” I mean. lol)

Let me give one more example.

I am especially drawn to people who willingly help others even if they have to sacrifice themselves a little.

Because I feel that quality is truly lovely.

And at the same time, I too hope to be that kind of person.

Because seeing the people I helped become happy is my greatest joy.

In the end, the old saying “birds of a feather flock together” feels almost frighteningly accurate.

The image I expect from others was exactly the image of myself I want to become, and the image I hope others expect from me.

Maybe relationships are like this: a process where we become mirrors for one another.

Then what kind of self am I standing with in front of their mirror?

Suddenly I wanted to properly introduce myself once.

I am a person who feels joy in helping others.

Especially my knowledge and passion for computers and AI can, I believe, clearly become a good guide for someone living through this complicated era.

Also, in MBTI terms, I am closer to T but pursue the warmth of F, and closer to P but aim for the structure of J.

This doubleness leads to flexible and open thinking, and sometimes it may help in someone’s counseling, and at other times in a moment that needs new inspiration.

… There is more, but the margin is too small, so I will stop here.

Thinking about it, these parts of me may step a little outside the category of sameness called “birds of a feather.”

Maybe relationships mean the whole process of reflecting each other through similar points, while also being drawn to special things the other has and growing together.

It feels like a beautiful harmony created together by sameness and difference.

Well anyway, I hope more precious people who can love each other just as we are will be beside me in the future too.